High Vibe New Year
If you’ve been in the Quiet the Hive sphere for a while, you’ll know that New Year’s Resolutions aren’t my bag. They are too often based on should and social expectations that set us up to fail, rather than based on the thing that might bring us joy, energy and unbounded liberation. That’s why I go in for intention setting (and why I run The Retrospective each year to help you think about how to bring the same to your new year).
I have set my intentions for this year based on five categories that felt exciting and heart filling for me; connect, strength, creative, independence and fun. Each of those contains things I would like to do, ways I want to be or dreams I want to work on to ensure I am welcoming each of them into my life. Alongside those is an intention related to an overall theme of how I want to feel this year; high vibe energy.
Sometimes ascribed to manifestation, and titled the emotional guidance scale by Abraham and Hicks (see below for the full outline of the scale), high vibe energy pertains to the energy you are putting out into the world, and subsequently attracting in.
Put it this way, have you ever had days where you wake up feeling out of sorts, knock your book off your nightstand loosing your page, trip over your duvet cover getting out of bed, find that the shirt you wanted to wear has a toothpaste stain on it, catch the bus with the grumpiest driver, have terse words with a colleague and come home wanting to hide under the duvet? The day started and just got worse. Everyone seemed to be in a bad mood.
And what about those days where you wake up feeling great just before your alarm goes off, put on an incredible podcast which leads you to have a great idea, make yourself the perfect coffee, love the outfit you’ve chosen, have a cheery conversation with a neighbour, get a piece of work done that you’ve been putting off and get some great feedback. What an amazing day. Things are just going your way.
So what if I told you that there are times when the course of the day is set out by the energy you emit. Not because your are in change of what happens to you, but rather because you have control over the way you respond to it. When we come from a place of high vibe energy or emotion (think gratitude, love, optimism), it has the potential for us to see the good (or at least find less drama) in a situation. When we come from a place of low vibe energy or emotion (considering jealousy, anger, or fear for example) we are more likely to feel helpless and hopeless and only see the bad in an experience.
Now, that’s not to say that we don’t all experience a range of emotions every day (and Brené Brown’s book The Atlas of the Heart is a great read around this topic), and fear, grief, insecurity and worry are all valid experiences, but what we can do is feel and name these emotions to help us recognise how they might be shaping our responses and lens on the world.
It can be challenging to come from high vibe energy all the time, but viewing the world with a compassionate, joyful, hopeful lens becomes easier with practice. It is also often the case the the energy you put out into the world, is the energy you get back.
And so, this year, I’m consciously choosing the energy I want to emit and attract. If you’re interested in doing the same, here are a few ideas that you can try to keep climbing up towards the upper levels of the emotional guidance scale.
Abraham Hick’s Emotional Guidance Scale
- Joy / Empowerment / Freedom / Love / Appreciation/ Knowledge
- Enthusiasm/ Eagerness/ Happiness
- Positive Expectation / Belief
- Frustration / Irritation / Impatience
- Overwhelming (feeling overwhelmed)
- Insecurity / guilt/ unworthiness
- Fear/ Despair/ Insecurity / Guilt / Unworthiness
How you could use the scale
- Ask yourself where you are on the scale and get curious about your placement
- Acknowledge that wherever you are on the scale, that’s okay
- Pinpoint where you would like to be
- Ask yourself about what you do, who you are with or how you feel when you’re at that place
Things you can try to keep the level high
- Keep a gratitude journal – as you may know, I advocate for this all the time and have found it hugely beneficial over the last five years that I’ve been keeping a daily journal. It’s so easy to do, but it gets you into the habit of looking for, noticing and appreciating the positives. Simply jot down a minimum of three things every evening that you are grateful for in your day. It could be as straightforward as a hot cup of coffee, or as dramatic as achieving something fantastic
- Get out for a walk – being in blue (water) or green (nature) space has been proven to be related to feeling in the upper part of the scale, raising our high vibes. When you’re feeling down or out of sorts, being in nature can really help, as can…
- Move your body – exercise releases the sorts of chemicals into your body that you want to – endorphins (the ‘feel good’ drug) are made by your body during exercise, which gives you an instant hit of joy
- Call a high vibe friend – get in touch with a friend who you know to be a high vibe energy person. Reach out and have an energising, buoyant conversation
- Use affirmations – our brain is brilliant, and it also believes what we tell it. Affirmations are a great way of reminding your brain how you are and what you want to feel. Try “my energy is high and I am feeling positive” or “I am coming from a place of love and compassion” – make one to suit you